What is JUDGMENT?

A lovely friend of mine had just read 'Conversations with God" and was horrified to read that God didn't judge anything as good or bad. She was also reading the Process Coaching Manual and her mind was twisted up about Judgement Release Process.

"Why does Process Coaching have a Judgment Release Process?" she asked. "In other words if I go out and kill someone I can just release judgment and feel ok about what I've done?"

"In no way would we say that killing someone is right" I explained. "In fact, it's pretty horrifying. The prisons are full of felons who've done just that and that's where they should be, behind bars, so that they won't endanger anyone else." I explained.

"What we refer to in Process Coaching is a different kind of judgment. We're referring to unloving self talk that contains guilt, shame, or blame. Guilt, shame and blame will block a person from moving forward in their life. We call it 'sand in the gearbox'." It's self-judgment we're referring to."

She interrupted. "Ok, so I get it, if I'm telling myself I'm stupid, then that's a self-judgment."

"Correct" I replied. "Telling ourself that we are bad or wrong isn't helpful. Clearly it's not ok to hurt anyone...and if we've done harm, naturally we must pay the consequences. We might be in the courtroom, literally and figuratively, however, when it's all said and done, we can move back into the classroom where learning can happen. And in the classroom , we can learn to love the parts of us that were moved to do harm, as we would love a misguided child.

Judgment Release is a way to untangle unloving thoughts about ourselves so that we can bring in more self love.

"Oh I remember reading about that in the Process Coaching Manual" she said. "I think I've got it down."

"Hmmm..." I responded. "Well, did you actually lead yourself through an experience with a trigger?"

"No" she said. "I didn't need to. I've got the concept.

I laughed. "Concept is something the mind has. A self-judgment is in the feeling...the energy in the body and the only way to actually release the unloving energy, is to feel it. The mind cannot do this without going to the sensations in the body that have been holding onto the unloving energy which is very magnetic."

"Ok," she looked at her watch. "How long will this take?"

"About 10 or 15 minutes" I responded.

She settled back in her chair and gave me the permission to coach her through an experience of judgment release related to feelings she's had about being 'stupid'.

When we were done I noticed she was smiling, breathing more freely and even her face seemed brighter.

"That was a big huge I had no idea I was under such a spell!"

I laughed because this is so often the response.

"When we release a self-judgment, it s"feel like we've lost weight, and for all I know, we have. I must confess, I release judgment at least 3 times a day." I told her.

Would you like a free, no obligation experiential? You really do have to feel it to know. You have to feel it to believe it. You can't read it in a book and get it, just like you can't read about meditation and 'get it'. It's experiential. Call me at 916-206-0927.

Big Hugs to you!